"Heaven and earth are only three feet apart, but in the thin places that distance is even smaller." – Celtic Saying
This is the thin place of the year. 2012 is just days away. Hard to believe the year 2011 has passed so quickly!
At the thin place where the two years converge it's important to recognize what matters most to us. Often it's the people that we care about – at home, work, and in the community.
For the Holiday Season what do we give to those who have enriched our daily lives? What can we give that expresses the difference they make and the value they add?
Of course the malls are filled with folks busy searching for just the right thing that expresses that caring and thanks.
This Christmas there's another kind of gift that we can give, one that you can't get at the mall or online. It's a gift that directly matches the positive impact of our family, friends and close colleagues. It's the Gift of Presence.
Showing up and being present with someone is an act of love and respect. It says that the other person is important and that the time we spend with them is valuable.
It's something everyone who loves, admires and respects us wants at any time of the year—our time and company.
So many of us are flying from one thing to another fed by an adrenaline drip. Meetings are scheduled at 15-minute intervals, ten hours every day. Before and after work there are kids to be driven to lessons, chores to do, trips to the gym and when we are thoroughly brain dead, television to be watched. Doesn't leave much space for meaningful connections.
Showing up, according to Woody Allen, is 80% of success. That's true as well in relationships. No spouse, child, friend or subordinate wants to be in relationship with a missing person...unless they've checked out too.
When we're not busy putting out the latest fire at home or work, we are preoccupied by something we have to do later or something that has already been done but we haven't brought to closure.
We are like time travelers in that regard. We are operating in multiple time zones with one important exception, the present moment.
Thinking about where we've been and where we're going next keeps us trapped in our heads and divorced from the present moment where we can actually make something happen.
We rationalize our lack of presence by citing our burdens and our fears. These sound like excuses to those who want to be close to us. Before long the very people we care most about are disappointed and resentful about our absences. What could be more important than our marriage, family, friendship or team they wonder?
Eventually, the effect on those of us that are caught up in distraction and preoccupation is a profound loneliness, separation and disassociation.
Okay, so you're an Uber-Time Traveler who is willing to reform. You'll want to know what to do, right? As Philip Shepherd reminds us in his marvelous new book New Self, New World:
"Changing our course and setting a bearing home—home to the Present that waits to greet and guide us—is a kind of revolution that begins not on some grand scale, but on a deeply personal one."
Follow these steps to reset your sails:
If heaven and earth are truly just three feet apart, there's room enough for you, your loved ones, friends or colleagues. Together you make a bridge that connects the two worlds.
That connection begins when you choose to show up and take responsibility for nurturing your most important relationships.
That's a gift for every season.
Happy Holidays to you and your family.
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The Vision of the Heart
Join Patrick O’Neill for a two-day exploration of the Four-Chambered Heart. The Four-Chambered Heart is the home of vision. When we are full, open, clear and strong-hearted vision is 20:20.
For Visionmakers, maintenance of the heart is a navigational necessity. This workshop is based on Angeles Arrien's model and will provide participants with an in-depth experience of their own Vision of the Heart.
The full heart is the home of deep engagement. It is here that we learn about being authentic, about commitment and about full expression. What am I full-hearted about? Where am I half-hearted? How can I resolve issues of half-heartedness through problem solving?
The open heart teaches us to trust self, others and circumstances as they unfold. It is the home of love, balance, compassion and tolerance. Where am I open-hearted? What has caused closed-heartedness? How do I forgive and reopen the heart?
The clear heart teaches the lessons of integrity and discernment. What am I clear about in my personal journey - in my roles, relationships and activities? Where do I stand on important issues? What are the dilemmas or areas of confusion in my life? How do I resolve my concerns and move forward?
The strong heart is the home of courage. Where am I strong-hearted about my journey, relationships, and actions? Where am I weak-hearted and unable or unwilling to make difficult choices, say what's so when it's so, and stand by my convictions? What strengthening work do I need to undertake?
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Patrick has been studying the wisdom traditions of the world for over 30 years and integrated them into his extensive teaching and consulting work in change management, leadership development, team dynamics and conflict resolution. He has worked with thousands of people, and hundreds of teams and organizations and is acknowledged as a gifted teacher, consultant, mediator and mentor.Our Approach
Patrick O’Neill will guide the group through a confidential process of deep, personal inquiry to support you to discover what is at the heart of your journey at this time. In addition to sharing his knowledge, he will employ a variety of traditional and modern techniques, including visualization, journeying, reflective practice, journaling and dialogue. His extensive, global experience in transformational work has given him an intuitive knack for framing things in the moment that can bring insight and accelerate your path of inquiry.The Participants
You will meet like-minded people who seek to form a whole-hearted future in a conscious, purposeful way.
For more information, please click here or contact Lynne O'Neill at 416-361-3331.
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